Dr. Dee Kite has written numerous books from fiction to self-help, but her latest one -- “The Dumbest Things Smart People Say… To Folks With MS” -- is the most personal. 

It is written with the help of hundreds of Multiple Sclerosis patients like herself, who wrote into websites about the inappropriate and hurtful encounters with mostly well-meaning folks.

Kite, who also works as a life coach out of her Olmos Park home, has suffered from MS since she was a grad student but was not diagnosed with the disease until many years later.

She says the diagnosis was more like being "set free" than anything else, since she finally had an explanation for her numbness in her extremities and extreme fatigue.

Then came the many suggestions and comments from folks regarding the disease. 

"Because we look so good, how could we possibly feel so bad? 'Why can’t you get up?' [they’d say],” Kite said.

From suggesting she go get stung by bees to some natural concoction, Kite says these well-meaning comments really hurt. 

“I thought, 'This might be a fun page to put on my website for my clients with MS,' because we could all commiserate,” she remembered.

After a few years, she realized she had enough for the book and published the resulting paperback.

It offers insight on what not to say to people suffering from the disease, as well as advice on the proper things to say.

For more information, email Dee Kite at Dee@MyMsCoach.com or Dee@CoachKite.com or visit thedumbestthingssomepeoplesay.com