Angie's List: Maintaining harmony with your spouse during renovations

Communication is key to process of home improvement

When the Haan family sold their spacious home to fund the massive remodel of a house built in 1865, communication between the couple became the number one priority.

Arthur and Khristina Haan wanted a project that they could do together, so the couple purchased a nearly demolished house, envisioning a dream build that would incorporate each of their personalities.

“This home was completely gutted to the studs and had no interior to it at all. Prior owner had started a project, ran out of money and that was when the builder picked it up,” Homeowner Arthur Haan said.

The couple explained that the undertaking has been exciting, but also definitely overwhelming at times. They learned that you have to trust your partner and share the decision-making.

“The great thing about a custom home is you can have anything you want, but the worst part of it is there are a lot of choices. So, we had a variety of people we leaned on to kind help us, guide us in directions,” Haan says

“You have to have patience and you have to be flexible. The stone on the fireplace was not the original stone; that was a flexibility thing. The stairwell, that was not the original plan for the stairwell, so you have to be able to budge and not be so locked in to a certain design element or feature that you want and be open to other ideas,” says Khristina Haan

“When undertaking a massive home remodel, communication between your spouse is actually one of the most important things to get the house you want and to keep harmony,” Angie’s List founder Angie Hicks says.

“You just kind of have to do what you can, know your limit and then know to pass it to your partner who you’re doing the project with and have faith that they’re going to do something you’ll like. That’s kind of how it was, back and forth,” says Mrs. Haan.

The couple got their project under contract in January and was moving in by late June. The best advice they could give to anyone wanting to do a remodel of this size is to make sure you have a builder and contractors who are highly reputable and have experience with these projects.

Angie says good hiring starts with a three-step process: get at least three written estimates; check references and credentials; and negotiate a contract that ties payment to progress. Never hire based solely on an advertisement or recommendation and don’t pay too much too soon.


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