Six ways to fix a relationship in a snap
SEATTLE, Wash. (Ivanhoe Newswire) – This Valentine's Day, you might be looking for love or you might just need to fix the relationship you're in. The good news is that it can be done and fast!
Leslie Anne and George Cone have been happily married for 30 years.
Leslie Anne Cone told Ivanhoe, "I think honestly, we bring out the best in each other."
"She absolutely is the love of my life in so many ways," Geroge Cone told Ivanhoe.
But like in any marriage, there have been struggles to work through.
Leslie Anne told Ivanhoe, "We have very different communication styles."
"So we came to the conclusion that if she wanted help, she had to ask for it," George told Ivanhoe.
Lana Staheli, PhD, Relationship Coach and Life Strategist, says couples have to be willing to put in the effort like Leslie Anne and George. Her new book offers advice to fix relationships in a snap.
First, Staheli says the number one relationship killer is criticism. Instead, focus on what's right with your partner. Number two, don't let your arguments escalate.
"We used to think express your anger and you'll feel better, that's not true, the more anger you express the angrier you feel," Staheli told Ivanhoe.
Her third tip is to plan sex! Staheli says in the first year of marriage, sex decreases by 25 percent.
"Sex is the most bonding chemically and emotionally way we have of being together," Staheli told Ivanhoe.
Next, keep your relationship fresh by trying new things together. Also, don't forget to make each other feel special.
"I think we often get into the habit of just sort of rolling through the day and we quit treating each other as someone special," Staheli told Ivanhoe.
Lastly, Staheli says don't have the same conversation more than twice. It will only frustrate you both!
Leslie Anne and George have a few tips of their own. They give a one minute compliment, a 30 second hug and a 10 second kiss every single day. They also never go to sleep mad! That's a formula that's kept them happy for three decades.
A surprising piece of advice from Staheli is that she says if you've cheated, don't confess it to your partner. It will only add to trust issues and make them feel worse.
Staheli's new book Snap Strategies For Couples: 40 Fast Fixes For Everyday Relationship Pitfalls comes out in April.
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